10/04/2026
OK I am going to post a non-business post but it is also related to why I gravitated to becoming a Bo***ir photographer.
As a survivor of SA as well as mental, physical abuse throughout most of my life, I am most happiest when I am helping others feel amazing, heard, seen, and most important CONFIDENT.
So why am I writing this post?
The current social media/headlines about what happened at Cornell University has affected me in ways I was not expecting. I'm not usually one that falls into the "triggered" mindset.
So as more and more anger, vocalizations are happening all over socials and news outlets, it is hard to ignore what it is doing to myself internally. So if this is negatively affecting me, who has faced my demons/past, who has built myself up from the darkness with confidence and purpose......
How are those who haven't been able to face it, who are currently in the depths of hell feeling like there is no light at the end of the tunnel?
This current situation sadly is what is happening daily to women. This just happened to hit socials and the outrage from women who are tired of the patriarch and feeling less than human is reaching an all time high. What those men did, what any man who does these kind of acts do is dehumanizing women, making us feel powerless.
So why do I take images of women that "some" would consider sexualizing them. It isn't, it's the opposite! Bo***ir is EMPOWERING, OWNING our bodies, owning our CONFIDENCE.
Empowerment is a powerful thing, something "weak minded" people do not like. So acts of abuse whether it is verbal or physical is an act of control and dominance (not the kinky consensual kind LOL).
Men who do not "like" empowered women 9 times out of 10 are because they are weak minded and insecure. That is a dangerous mix.
Who is Bo***ir for?
Bo***ir is for everyone, what it isn't for is something someone only does to appease their partner.
Why would I say that last comment?
Because I want YOU to do it for YOU, not to do it to make someone else happy. Am I against doing bo***ir as a gift for your partner, of course not! But I want YOU to do it with the intent of what you get from a bo***ir session, the partner just benefits from your experience.
So again why and I putting this all out here? Because I am Jane Doe, I am a survivor, but most importantly; I am an ambassador for EMPOWERMENT and CONFIDENCE!!
