19/10/2023
Q***r Stories: A Friend Between Us
*Part 11* 🏳️🌈
A few days ago, I packed some of my clothes and took them with me to the office so that after work, Natasha and I could just go straight to their apartment without the hassle of going to my place and then going to their place.
It was a Friday afternoon and we had a long weekend, so we were off on Monday. It was perfect timing. We got to their apartment later that afternoon. Her friend, Mary, Mar for short, opened the door and I got the shock of my life. She reminded me so much of my ex and I just froze and I didn’t know what to do.
She must’ve thought something was wrong with me so I just entered and couldn’t properly greet or introduce myself. Something about her demeanour was rubbing me off the wrong way. I respect and love my friend, Natasha, but I was triggered. It’s like my ex was in the room with me.
I tried so hard to let that past go, but it seemed to have followed me through my dear friend, Natasha. I know that she wasn’t my ex, but there was really something I didn’t quite like about her. I know I sound like a do**he but that’s how I felt in her presence. I couldn’t let Natasha know that because that would break her and she probably wouldn’t want to be my friend anymore, seeing that they have been friends for many years now.
So I tried by all means to ignore her and not get triggered but it was so hard. I thought that by being mean to her would give me the closure that I needed. She noticed that there was something wrong and asked me about it so I shrugged her off. Even when I was being so mean, I could see that she wanted to make me feel welcomed. The things we do to other people because of what someone else did to us is projection of an unhealed soul.
I thought I was healed but clearly, I was not and I was taking in out on the wrong person. My heart wouldn’t let it go even though my mind knew what I was doing was totally out of character. I punished her for the crimes of my ex, who was also a stud. Natasha and I went on to work on the project after freshening up and eating while Mar went to her room.
The following day, Natasha and I went out to jog around the block and I insisted that we leave Mar behind because she might be tired and I knew for sure that wasn’t the truth. I just didn’t want to be in the same space as her at that moment or any moment. Later on, Natasha got a call from her mother that she is needed for family emergency ASAP and I knew that it was gonna be me and Mar alone in the apartment.
I don’t know what was going through my mind but I wanted to make Mar feel as annoyed as possible so I feel better. I followed her around the apartment, criticized everything that she did until she went to her room. As if that wasn’t enough, I started pushing it a little further and making a hell of a noise. I got a little bit of satisfaction from that.
Eventually, she came out of her room and looked more pi**ed than annoyed. She yelled at me and that’s how I knew I pushed it a little too far. I couldn’t stand it so I wept and went to Natasha’s room. While I was in the room crying, I felt really bad and ashamed of myself. I thought I was getting closure to feel better but what I did was punish another person for my ex’s crimes.
What if all she wanted was to be a friend to me like Natasha did? I could hear her knocking on the door for me to come and eat, trying to apologise for what had happened earlier but I was so ashamed that I didn’t want to come out of the room. After hours of thinking and self-talk, I decided it was best for me to leave because I’m projecting how I’m feeling on Mar and she didn’t deserve that.
I packed my bags and took my project and decided to leave. Mar was sitting in the living room and stopped me from leaving. I cannot lie, the way she touched my arm and the spark in her eyes made me feel some type of way. I couldn’t let myself feel that way because I had sworn off studs and dating in particular. I didn’t even notice that she had such nice, brown eyes. I decided to stay and explain myself and everything seemed to be okay now.
She was a really good person, after all, she is Natasha’s friend so I understood why they are friends. I just didn’t allow myself to get close to her or know her for who she is. She suggested that we go out and show me a bit of the city since I haven’t been here for long and I don’t know much about the place. We got ready to go out and she just effortlessly looked good.
I felt like I was overdressed for this occasion but she reassured me that I wasn’t overdressed. She seemed so gentle and sweet. I liked the way she looked at me, however, I wouldn’t allow myself to feel anything for anyone, especially her, since everything was still a bit tense and shaky.
What I was ready for was to have fun and let loose. We went out and had the time of our lives. Besides Natasha, I have never really felt so seen and heard in my life. But that’s what they all do in the beginning. They sweet talk you and then when least expected, they break your heart into a million pieces. I never really connected with anyone like this before and it was scary. I mean, we had a little bit to drink but I felt connected to her as if we’ve known each other for a long time.
It was not the kind of connection Natasha and I had. It was way more than that but I just couldn’t allow myself to feel. We got back home late at night and continued to talk and have some hot beverages because it was cold. I don’t remember what happened exactly, but I found myself kissing her.
As much as I enjoyed that kiss, I was mad at myself. I was mad that at that moment, I allowed myself to feel, and as much as I wanted to blame the wine, it was all me. I was present in the moment and I felt every moment of it. I hated myself for going against my word. I went straight to the bedroom and left her there in the kitchen. I spent the whole night tossing and turning, replaying the kiss in my head, and thinking about her. I do not want to get hurt again. I don’t want to put myself in that position again because it hurts so much.
I don’t even know how she feels about me. I don’t even know if she likes me like that. My mind was all over the place. All I wanted was her but at the same time, all I wanted was to protect myself, and protecting my heart was my priority. Maybe this feeling will pass. That’s what I kept telling myself.
The next morning, I got woken up by an aroma of fresh coffee and toast. I knew that I had to go and explain what happened last night but I decided that I’m not going to say anything. I am just going to pretend like nothing happened. I put on the best face and joined her in the kitchen. The food really smelled good. I could sense a bit of tension between us but I just disregarded that feeling. As much as I was trying to ignore the “conversation” about last night, she brought it up.
I knew she was going to say something about it. To my shock, she started confessing her feelings for me. Okay, I did not expect that. I was lost for words. The Bonolo before would’ve run into her arms and confessed her feelings, and accepted to date her but this Bonolo has her walls way up and is not about to get played again. That’s what was on my mind at that time. I felt something for her, but I can’t just let myself go based off of the last 24 hours.
I have been down this road before, I am not going to make that mistake again. She tried to set me right by telling me that not everyone is my ex and all of those stuff. However, I couldn’t let myself go, despite what I was feeling for her and the promise I made to myself, so I told her that I did not feel the same way so that I wouldn’t have to explain myself. I was going through a turmoil of emotions.
It was time for me to go back to my place. I didn’t want any awkwardness or tension between us anymore. So it was better that way. I had to do some self-introspection and have some space to myself to think and being there was not going to help my situation. I didn’t want to take any call from anyone, including Natasha. She called me a couple of times.
I assume she knows what happened. Now I’m in my apartment with Garlly, the only one who will always be here for me. No matter what I did, I couldn’t stop thinking about Mar. But I am afraid. I am afraid to give myself to her.