09/10/2026
One of my favourite ever film shots for FILM FRIDAY. I think film, and particularly black and white film, has a way of drawing depth to the surface. I feel this frame more than I see it. Thereās a certain silence and loudness to it that makes the image easier to connect with.
Having a moment to capture the groom like this has now become part of my āevery weddingā shot list. I find it to be one of the anchors for the emotional story-telling through a whole gallery. I find it frustrating when photographers bow to the narrative of a disinterested groom, as if itās not a big day for him too. I know thereās stereotypes and real experiences around how much a groom is involved in the wedding planning that shape this thinking. But the world needs a masculinity that is present and emotionally healthy - so this is in some way my act of building that world. Or atleast, helping others imagine it or be okay with it. Art and artists have always had this prophetic role.
Then lastly, itās also a moment for me to sit with the person, not just the subject of my work. Itās a moment I look forward to on each wedding day because it protects my work from being just a service.
Thanks Musa for being a great guy on the day! And thanks everyone for coming to my TED talk.
