13/12/2021
Have you ever been made to feel that you are an overprotective, helicopter parent around your child's food allergies or that you're overcautious and slightly neurotic around your own ones?
I remember one occasion when a mother told me that I was 'mollycoddling' Natasha. Natasha had had a bad wheeze all night and the next day she was very tired, lethargic and had no appetite. She had to miss a friend's birthday party. The mother of the birthday girl saw us in the local park the following afternoon and she was furious with me. She just didn't believe that Natasha had been too unwell to attend the party the day before.
People outside the home will usually see an energetic, happy, bright child, but they rarely see the flip side of how allergies can affect day to day living and activities. What they don't see is that same child, pale with no energy, wheezy, or itchy and sick...and it's the same story for adults.
💔 They don't have to attend doctor appointments for repeat life-saving medication or allergy clinics for painful blood tests where good news rarely follows.
💔 They don't see parents quietly shed more tears after their child has to miss school again because they are too unwell following a reaction.
💔 They may not understand how it feels when you find out that a well meaning adult told your child to have just a little bit, because it surely won't hurt.
💔 They have never watched a hot, red rash with such fear in case it spreads and other symptoms appear because someone kissed their baby's cheek after eating.
💔 They don't have the picture burnt into their minds of their child, pale in a hospital bed with an oxygen mask strapped to their face because they were left fighting for air, fighting to breath.
We are NOT overreacting, we are protecting. Support, empathy and understanding can make all the difference which is why we need to keep spreading allergy awareness. Please share this.
Tanya x
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Tanya's daughter Natasha sadly died in 2016 following a severe allergic reaction to sesame seeds that were undeclared on a food label. She and her husband Nad campaigned for a change in the UK food law - Natasha's Law. They are co-founders of The Natasha Allergy Research Foundation. Support the Foundation here narf.org.uk/support-us