09/07/2026
One of the hardest things Iāve learned as a DV survivor is that just because Iām capable of surviving something doesnāt mean I have to keep choosing it.
I have PTSD. Iāve spent years healing, doing the inner work, rebuilding my life, and learning the difference between something that challenges me and something that costs me my peace.
So when I say, āIām not doing stranger sessions anymore,ā that decision didnāt come lightly.
I started stranger sessions because I wanted to create happiness. Fun. Connection. Maybe even love.
And the actual sessions? They were AMAZING. Both days were genuinely so much fun.
But what happened afterward was stressful and turned out very differently than I had hoped.
So I listened to myself.
I stopped.
Not because I failed.
Not because Iām scared.
Not because strangers on the internet get to decide what I should do.
Because I am allowed to change my mind.
Iām heading into my busiest season, and stranger sessions require a LOT of work outside of taking the photosāapplications, screening, matching, communication, planning, and coordinating two complete strangers.
And I didnāt take deposits. I didnāt make commitments to anyone. I have zero obligation to continue offering something that Iāve decided isnāt right for me right now.
And to the people leaving hate on my more popular videos because I said Iām no longer offering themā¦
This applies to so much more than photography.
If something doesnāt bring you happiness anymore, you can stop doing it.
If it doesnāt turn out how you expected, you can walk away.
If something starts costing you more peace than it gives you joy, you can choose something different.
You donāt owe the internet consistency at the expense of your own well-being.
You donāt owe strangers an explanation.
And you donāt have to keep doing something just because everyone else enjoyed watching you do it.
You are allowed to outgrow things.
You are allowed to change your mind.
You are allowed to protect your peace.
And after everything Iāve survived, Iām not going to apologize for doing exactly that.
Love you all. š¤
Stay safe.
I may do them again soon but it has to be organic. Xoxo