01/27/2026
I photograph families often. And over time, I’ve realized that motherhood isn’t only about children. It’s about the quiet, internal changes that happen to us as parents.
Motherhood is not intuitive. It’s a set of skills we learn along the way.
Some of them come from our own childhood, from watching our parents. But many appear only when we become parents ourselves, and they require intention, practice, and reflection.
I’m not talking about practical things like diapers or bedtime routines. I’m talking about the emotional work of parenting.
Most of us were never taught how to set boundaries.
How to prioritize our own well-being. Or that rest and sleep are not indulgences, but essential parts of being a present, grounded parent.
Many of us grew up believing that being a “good” parent meant constant self-sacrifice — putting everyone else first, often at the expense of ourselves. And while love is generous, parenting without care for ourselves eventually takes a toll.
So alongside raising our children, many of us are also learning how to re-parent ourselves, developing emotional skills we didn’t have before.
Becoming a mother taught me emotional self-regulation, something I didn’t even realize I lacked. It also showed me that being agreeable, helpful, and easy is often praised but not always healthy.
Over time, I realized that much of the discomfort I carried wasn’t random. It was my body and mind responding to crossed boundaries.
Learning to recognize and protect those boundaries became another essential parenting skill.
One that has shaped me deeply over the past seven years.
And I’m still learning.
What about you? What have you learned about yourself through motherhood or parenthood? Iʼd love to read your reflections.