03/19/2026
Thereâs a guilt that I never really understood or knew existed until I became a mom. Tell me if you relate.
It follows you around in the moments when you try to take a single breath to regroup.
This guilt sneaks in while serving yourself breakfast, with cries going unanswered a few short minutes that feel like a lifetime.
Or during a bathroom break alone, or an hour-long errand without tiny humans, planned during nap time so they donât know youâve left.
Even glancing at your phone, whether to disassociate or plan a park date...
And âwhewâ the GUILT during a rare self-care afternoon is unparalleled. Showing up and being fully present for THAT is a monumental task.
Guilt feels like this constant whisper that youâre not doing enough. That every moment missed in their childhood is a moment wasted, or you should be doing something more productive for the household. Worried youâll ruin your precious mini-me forever if youâre not engaged every minute.
But hereâs what Iâm learning (and itâs HARD to put in to practice): As moms, we are not meant to give all of ourselves away to others 24/7. We NEED to take the moment, the hour, or the afternoon, or even a night (gasp!) away. We need to connect, ground, create, breathe, rest, laugh, and be taken care of.
You are still whole, still worthy, even in the moments you choose yourself.
And itâs okay if you feel lost for a while, grieving the space within your brain, day and calendar that used to exist with more freedom.
Itâs normal to feel the guilt. Itâs pretty impossible not to feel it when youâre doing a good job as a mom.
Hereâs your permission slip to feel the guilt but to also fill your cup as often as you can.
If you need a mom friend and an afternoon away to feel guilty but fulfilled together, my DMs and studio doors are open. Iâm not just here to convince you to schedule an empowerment session; Iâm also a girl who needs a little treat date once in a while so we donât feel so alone. Reach out!
