09/14/2023
“Letting go involves being aware of a feeling, letting it come up, staying with it, and letting it run its course without wanting to make it different or do anything about” - David Hawkins
The yellow jacket, producer of many stings including two on my fingers two summers ago. A story Ollie remembers, getting in the car and I didn’t notice they were building a nest behind my side view mirror. Me, blissfully unaware, slammed my door and rolled down my window and felt them crawling on my hand. I shook them off and yelled for Ollie to run. He was close to me and he took off like a dart back to the house. Two stings, and a story that will be remembered by Ollie forever. He frequently brings it up when we see wasps, he remembers, “Dad is that like the one that stung you”. Ollie gets it, connecting the dots and building knowledge from experience.
Luckily we get opportunities to revise how things can be understood. Yes the wasp caused me great pain in that instance, and yes it is notoriously aggressive, still has purpose and does wonderful things. We get the opportunity to see the good and the bad, and tonight I was able to explain that even though that wasp hurt me, here it is a pollinator doing one of the most important jobs for our earth. It didn’t sting me tonight, it just was doing a job it does over and over again and is often unappreciated because of its reputation. We have a terrible habit as humans of subcategorization, deeming people, things, life preferences either good or bad.
Lots of things in my life lately have followed parallel to this. I’m trying to remember that even though I hated those wasps on that day, they are incredibly important and I love what they do.
From the wasps perspective, my hand was invading its space and it had every right to sting me, to get me away from what was theirs. I’m sure it would have rather not stung me and just kept building the nest behind my mirror. I forgive those wasps because the anger and resentment from that is not worth the weight of carrying going forward. I also hope they forgive me for encroaching on an area they thought was safe, next time I’ll be more diligent about checking before(hand). (Pun Intended)