07/12/2026
When Ari was born and the doctors told me she had Down syndrome, I was scared. Honestly scared. The first thing I thought was, will she ever walk. Will she ever talk. She will probably never get married. I was scared for her health. And I was scared that I could not do it, that I was not going to be able to be a good mom to her.
It took me a long time to accept it. A really long time to get to, okay, this is my daughter. This is the reality. And I love her anyway, and she is still going to have a beautiful, fulfilling life.
It never took away the beauty of being her mom. If anything, it made it more beautiful. More special. Those moments with her were challenging, and they were so worth it.
Now I look at her walking and talking and living her best life, and I think, there is nothing holding her back. Nothing. She is still learning. And she is the best big sister.
People have asked me, your first daughter has Down syndrome, are you going to have more kids. Are they going to have Down syndrome too. That question comes from not knowing. Of course we are going to have more. Of course we want to give her siblings. And honestly, even if they did have Down syndrome, we would be so excited to have that experience again. So if you are a mom at the very beginning, here is what I would say to you. Love your baby the way you would without that diagnosis. Love them right here, right now. Try not to worry so much about the future, because everything is going to fall into place. Enjoy the little moments. Try to find joy in the challenges. The journey is going to be beautiful no matter what.
Olivia Goad
Ari’s mom DisabilityPhotographer