11/17/2025
This past weekend, we gathered to celebrate the life of a dear friend.
Austin Lee Bates was only 35 — just a kid, really — when he lost his life doing what he loved, riding his dream motorcycle, a pristine 1946 Indian Chief.
I’ve had a lot of loss in the last few years… family, dogs, relationships, friends. Some days it feels like I’m holding myself together with whatever pieces are left, hoping they don’t fall apart before the day is done. After Austin passed, I was talking to my sister, and she said something that’s been echoing in my head ever since.
She told me she was grateful that I found motorcycles — or maybe they found me — because she sees how deep it runs in our family and how it’s shaped me into the man I am today. She said she’s proud of me. But she also admitted that a part of her heart breaks for me.
Her father once told her that by the time he turned 40, he’d lost around 15 close friends to this lifestyle we love. Eventually, he said he just went numb to the tragedies that kept coming, year after year.
So while she’s proud of who I’ve become, she also knows there are more heartbreaks ahead. That’s the truth of this life — if you’re in it for the right reasons, not for attention or ego or Instagram likes, you keep pushing forward because you don’t know any other way to live. And maybe over time, you do go a little numb… but that doesn’t mean you stop showing up.
I’ll always show up. For my friends, for their wives, their kids, their parents — for the people left behind trying to make sense of something that will never make sense.
Hold your friends close. Call the person you fell out with and say, “Hey… I’m sorry.” Live each day like it could be your last, because one day, it will be. And when that day comes, what will people say about you? Let’s hope it’s something good.
I’m putting the GoFundMe link for Austin’s wife and children in my profile. Please consider helping if you can.