Joyous Engagements

06/16/2026

I’ve been really wrestling about how to make posts during pride month. I see so many companies changing their logos as if a temporary change of branding really shows the support that people are seeking.

And at the same time, I certainly have dozens of incredible photos of my beautiful same-sex and intersex couples that could be featured in posts, but that would potentially be making their love feel like a spectacle.

I don’t want my support of your love story to be a marketing ploy.

So instead, I’m going to share a picture of my daughter‘s end-of-the-year journal in which she’s drawn herself. In this self portrait, Elizabeth has drawn herself and her favorite T-shirt, which says love is love.

This is the same daughter that if she came home with me tomorrow and told me she had a girlfriend my response would be “you’re not allowed to date until you’re 25.”

I think that there is no better way to underline that I stand by this conviction than to outline the approach that I have for the two most precious people in my life, my children. I really hope that someday they grow up in a world where love isn’t a spectacle.

So, whether you are someone that feels like your love is marginalized questioned or not, I’m here to support you and be your ally. Booking me your officiant means that you can get married in secret at my home anytime between now and the day of your wedding. It means I won’t make your love story a spectacle and, unless I have your express permission to post photos of your lovely lovely day, I won’t.

Cheers.

PS: I didn’t write this with AI. I used to talk to text. It’s probably not perfect and full of grammatical errors but I think our errors make us human. Let’s see more of what makes us human.

PPS: learn more about how I can best support you on your wedding day here: https://www.joyousengagements.com/lgbtq-wedding-ceremonies

PPPS is the sound you make to get a cat to come see you. Here kitty. 🐈‍⬛

06/12/2026

06/03/2026

Don’t leave things to chance. Hire a pro.

05/25/2026

A lot of couples quietly worry about this before their wedding ceremony:

“What if I get overwhelmed in front of everyone?”

Not because they aren’t excited.
Not because they aren’t deeply in love.

But because weddings can be… a lot.

The attention.
The expectations.
The noise.
The pressure to react “correctly.”
The feeling of being watched the entire time.

And for neurodivergent couples especially, the ceremony itself can start to feel less like a meaningful moment… and more like something to survive.

Your wedding ceremony should feel safe.
Grounding.
Comfortable.
Like you.

That’s why I approach ceremonies differently.

I adapt to my couples instead of forcing them into a wedding performance.

Some want playful energy.
Some want calm reassurance.
Some want detailed walkthroughs and predictability.
Some want a short low-pressure ceremony.
Some even choose to legally marry privately beforehand so the ceremony itself feels easier.

There’s no “correct” way to experience a wedding day.

There’s only your way.

If you’ve been quietly worrying about how the ceremony will feel, this page was written for you. 💛

Www.Joyousengagements.com/neurodivergent-weddings

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05/18/2026

You love the idea of having a friend or family member marry you. Honestly? I get it. The best ceremonies feel personal — not stiff, scripted, or like a stranger showed up and read generic words off a page.

But then the panic sets in…

Can they legally do it?
Will the paperwork be correct?
What if they freeze in front of everyone?
What if the ceremony feels awkward instead of natural?
What if something goes wrong and nobody knows how to recover?

Here’s the truth: weddings always have little unexpected moments. The difference is having someone experienced enough to make those moments feel effortless instead of stressful.

That’s why I created a guide for couples trying to figure out how to have the warmth of a friend-led ceremony without risking the experience (or the legal side of your marriage).

Whether:
✨ you want a professional officiant who feels like a trusted friend
OR
✨ you want coaching for the friend/family member officiating your wedding

…I walk through both options here.

Read more:

https://www.joyousengagements.com/how-to-make-sure-your-friend-or-family-member-can-legally-officiate

Happy wedding planning! The best is yet to come!

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05/14/2026

Hello friends! I’ve been updating my website and I’m looking for testimonials! Did I marry you? Drop me a review either here in this thread or via DM!

05/09/2026

What would YOU do in my position? Ignore it? Acknowledge it? Noah and Katie were such great sports. Thank you for capturing this so effectively!

05/08/2026

When I say I’ve done this a hundred times…

05/07/2026

Does your officiant plan to hand deliver your marriage license?

Leave nothing to chance.