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09/26/2026

09/14/2026

One thing I’ve learned through years of training, coaching, and developing people is that one of the greatest strengths a person can have is remaining teachable—especially when they are in a place of influence.

I’ve seen how quickly growth can stop when correction begins to feel like criticism, when questions are interpreted as disrespect, or when disagreement is mistaken for disloyalty.

The most effective people I’ve worked with are not the ones who always have the answer. They are the ones who are secure enough to listen, reflect, adjust, and sometimes say, “I could have handled that better.”

In my experience, the moment accountability becomes something we expect from everyone else but resist for ourselves, influence begins to change.

People become less honest. Conversations become less open. Eventually, others may choose silence simply because speaking truth no longer feels safe.

That is why I believe being teachable is not a weakness. It is a sign of maturity.

You can be confident and still receive correction.
You can hold responsibility and still consider another perspective.
You can have influence and still be wrong sometimes.

Humility does not diminish influence. It strengthens it.

And after years of working with people, I have learned this: when every disagreement becomes a problem with the person who disagrees, it may be time to examine the environment—not just the individual.

08/30/2026

Did you know that narcissism can exist in church leadership? 
Here’s what it looks like:

* Needs admiration and recognition — wants to be praised, celebrated, or seen as especially gifted or important.
* Difficulty accepting correction — may correct others freely but becomes defensive, angry, offended, or dismissive when corrected.
* Lack of accountability — rarely admits, “I was wrong.” Problems are often blamed on other people.
* Controlling behavior — wants loyalty, agreement, and influence over people rather than allowing healthy disagreement.
* Uses position or title as authority — may act as though being the pastor, leader, prophet, etc. makes their judgment unquestionable.
* Poor empathy — can minimize other people’s feelings while expecting others to be highly sensitive to theirs.
* Different public and private personalities — charismatic, loving, or humble publicly, but harsh, dismissive, manipulative, or demeaning behind closed doors.
* Takes disagreement personally — someone questioning a decision can be treated as rebellious, disrespectful, jealous, or “against the vision.”
* Needs to be the center — other people’s gifts, recognition, or influence can feel threatening.
* Favoritism and loyalty tests — people who affirm the leader may receive special treatment, while critics become outsiders.
* Rewrites conflicts to remain the victim or hero — their role in a problem may disappear from the story.
* Apologies without real accountability — things like “I’m sorry you felt that way,” rather than acknowledging specific harmful behavior.
* Spiritual manipulation can occur in religious leadership — using God, Scripture, calling, submission, honor, or “touch not God’s anointed” to discourage legitimate questions or accountability.

08/12/2026

Thank you Lillian Roldan for trusting me with your daughters Quinceañera. It was beautiful!

08/08/2026

Recent worked finished 💕
Thank you Tito Alicea and his beautiful wife Lydiana Rodriguez for trusting me with your big day!