01/10/2021
Still pretty much here, almost a year after this post (though the chicks are grown ... and TBI appears to be secondary to spinal/brainstem injury, likely sustained along with that first concussion, then worsened exponentially by the second.). Big medical appointments coming this week, along with answers and a path to healing, finally, we hope? Meantime, take it from me: Sometimes - many times - medical professionals get concussion wrong. They underestimate it, or miss it entirely. Just because someone is a medical professional (or longtime church family, or both), don't trust their word that a hit to the head isn't a concussion.
One missed concussion can change your life forever.
Don't learn that lesson the way I did.
Her world left her behind, but we won’t. So we recalibrate almost daily, as we learn to live with this beast that is TBI. “Mtbi” is an oxymoron. Call it “nonvisible” if you like, but there is nothing mild about tbi. One problem diminishes, another rises to take its place, as we chase after healing therapies too new for any guarantees or timelines, trying to get a broken brain to fix. Projections for healing benchmarks come and go, and I fret over social media timelines that aren’t neat presentations designed to court photography clients. Today, my son told me I’m like a mother and a father to him. Yesterday, my daughter told a new friend, when asked if she had a stepdad, that I don’t date; “She decided just to love us!” And today, Elspeth and I started our garden. Hopefully, sometime before I die, I will learn that I’ll get “there” when I get there; right where I’m at, even with the challenges - and notwithstanding how unfair it is to this daughter of mine - is pretty perfect.