10/18/2025
I know I’m behind on posting. I’ve been too busy trying to be present with my mom rather than creating content.
But, I felt like I needed to interrupt everything to repost this photo. This is Rezlica. If you’ve followed me for any time, you’ve no doubt seen this picture before. And if you’ve heard me speak you, you’ve heard me tell the story of this incredibly generous woman.
Over the 10 years since I made this photograph, I’ve often wondered about this tiny yet mighty woman. I would periodically google her and her village, scanning the stories, and death notices, always relieved by what I didn’t find.
Well, yesterday, quite by chance, as I clicked through to Facebook, to check the status of a local restaurant here in Žabljak, Montenegro, learned that at the storied age of 105, she passed away.
The photo is from one of my earliest field visits in search of cheese, 10 year ago May.
To say a lot has happened in those 10 years would be an absurd understatement. So much is different in the world I scarcely recognize it. And now and I retrace some of my earliest steps in the region I am hit with memories long forgotten of who I was all those years ago. The anxiety and fear, (with an understory of exhilaration and joy, but mostly anxiety and fear) and I hardly recognize her.
Fortunately my curiosity fractionally outweighed the anxiety enough to push me to go, and then keep going. To roll into tiny villages on a thread of a lead. To ask questions. Ask them again differently. To overcome resistance from without and within. To endure my own internal monologue. Which in turn crossed my path with Rezlica.
When I think of Rezlica and all she saw and experienced throughout her life. And more sharply, the stories and accumulated knowledge that has died with her. And then I look over at my mom and think of her life and her stories and her experiences and I am compelled to be more patient. With the repetitions and the questions as we try to carve a few more memories on the increasingly unyielding tablet of her mind.
My deepest sympathies and condolences to all of Rezlica’s family and friends.