09/02/2026
Long read but worth it..
THERE IS A WEIGHT ON THE DECK THAT DOESN’T SHOW UP IN THE CATCH.
I have spent a lot of mornings around working docks.
I’ve watched men and women climb aboard before daylight. I’ve watched hands pull lines, mend nets, work controls, sort catch and do the hundreds of little things most people will never see.
And the longer I spend around them, the more respect I have for the people who make their living on the water.
They are tough. They have to be.
But somewhere along the way, I think we confused being tough with being silent.
Commercial fishing asks a hell of a lot from a person.
There are long days and short nights. There is bad weather, broken equipment, fuel bills, regulations, uncertainty and the constant question of whether the next trip will be enough.
There are birthdays missed.
Anniversaries missed.
Children growing up while somebody is offshore trying to provide for them.
There is physical exhaustion everybody can see.
But there is another kind of weight being carried on these boats that you cannot see from the dock. Stress. Fear. Depression. Anxiety. Loneliness. The pressure of knowing people are depending on you. And sometimes simply being tired of being tired.
Commercial fishing is a dangerous and stressful occupation, and research and industry health programs recognize injuries, chronic pain, sleep deprivation, traumatic events, anxiety and depression as real concerns within fishing communities.
We check the weather before leaving. We check the fuel. We check the engine. We check the radio. We check the life jackets and the safety equipment. We make damn sure the boat is ready to bring us home.
Maybe we need to start checking the person standing beside us with the same seriousness.
I have talked about men’s mental health for a long time, and I will continue to. But this conversation belongs to the women working these boats too.
Because pain does not care whether you are a man or a woman. Neither does depression. Neither does exhaustion. And neither does su***de. Being strong does not mean carrying everything alone. Sometimes strength is looking at somebody you trust and saying:
“I’m not doing good.”
Sometimes strength is making the phone call you have been putting off. And sometimes strength is being the person who notices somebody else has gotten quiet. Call them. Sit beside them. Ride back to the dock with them. Ask the question again when “I’m fine” doesn’t sound fine. You do not have to know what to say. You do not have to fix their problems.
Sometimes the most important thing you can give another human being is five minutes and the knowledge that somebody gives a damn whether they are still here tomorrow.
HELP FOR OUR FISHING COMMUNITY
NORTH CAROLINA — NC Farm Help Line
844-325-3276
This resource specifically serves North Carolina farmers, fishermen, foresters, farmworkers and their families and connects them with stress-assistance and behavioral-health resources.
COMMERCIAL FISHING SUPPORT — Fishing Partnership Support Services
Fishing Partnership works with fishermen and fishing families and has navigators who understand the fishing lifestyle and can help connect people with mental-health resources.
VIRGINIA — AgriStress Helpline
Call or text 833-897-2474. Virginia’s Department of Agriculture lists this specifically for people dealing with stress in agricultural communities.
SOUTH CAROLINA — SC AgriWellness
Call 800-968-8143. Free counseling services are available for South Carolina farmers and farm families, and crisis intervention is available without limit.
And no matter what state you are in:
988 SU***DE & CRISIS LIFELINE
Call or text 988.
Free, confidential support is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, anywhere in the United States.
If someone is in immediate physical danger, call 911.
We fight like hell to keep these boats alive. We repair them. We rebuild them. We replace what breaks. We spend whatever time it takes to get them seaworthy again.
People deserve that same effort.
No trip is worth a life. No catch is worth a life. No bad season is worth a life. No bill is worth a life. And no person should ever believe the people waiting on shore would be better off without them. So check your crew. Check your family. Check the person who has gotten quiet. And every once in a while, check yourself. Because bringing the boat home is important.
But bringing the people on her home is everything. Let’s bring everybody home.