09/06/2026
When I was 25 weeks pregnant with our youngest, we learned she had a heart defect. At my first specialist scan, I was also told there was a significant chance she could have a chromosomal condition. As you can imagine it was a lot to process, and with COVID restrictions still in place, I had to receive all of that information alone. In that moment, the weight of it sat entirely on my shoulders.
I was given the option of termination, but for me, there was never really a decision to make. She was already my daughter. I loved her, and I knew my role was to be her mum and her biggest advocate, no matter what lay ahead. I actually never shared the possibility of a chromosomal condition with anyone. I didn't want pity, judgment, or unsolicited opinions. It was a deeply personal matter, and it belonged to our family only. When I was 8 months pregnant, someone I knew casually told me that if they ever found out something was wrong with their unborn baby, they would "just abort." Again with the opinions of others and lack of self awareness…😬🤷🏼♀️
I am absolutely pro-choice and firmly believe every woman has the right to make decisions about her own body and pregnancy. But when you're carrying a baby who may face challenges, disabilities, or an uncertain future, these conversations become very real.
Our daughter Evelyn is one of the greatest joys of my life. Like so many children born with disabilities, medical conditions, or differences, she is funny, loving, determined, and so incredibly worthy. Watch out world!
What I struggle with is the way deeply personal decisions are sometimes turned into public content. When you have a platform reaching millions of people, there comes a level of responsibility and emotional maturity. Not every private moment needs to be shared online, and not every decision needs a public audience.
To the families raising children with disabilities, medical conditions, or additional needs: you are amazing. The strength, resilience, and love you show every day is extraordinary.
And to those beautiful kids - you are valued, you are loved, and you matter more than you know. ❤️🧡🩷
