21/08/2026
Closure Is Overrated
It is extremely unhealthy for you to obsess over, "Why did they do this to me? " Why do you think an explanation will make the pain make sense? Pain will never make sense and it should not.
If someone knowingly chose to do wrong to you, believe me, it is healthier to accept the act without demanding an explanation from them.
You don't need to understand cruelty to walk away from it. Understanding why you are feeling is another thing; seeing how you can live healthily with the pain is also another thing.
Closure is not the same as healing. You can heal without ever understanding why someone chose to hurt you. Asking them to explain to you why they hurt you is inviting a back door for them to do the same thing they did to you. Jipende.
People need to stop acting as though every broken relationship requires a final conversation, an explanation or an apology.
My friend, Futa machozi, ishafanyika. Sometimes closure is as simple as telling yourself, “Hiyo ndiyo mara ya mwisho.”
Jiheshimu, jipende.
Signed,
40 year old village elder.
