09/04/2026
‘In That Moment’
Condoms are the first line of protection against HIV and other infections.
They are simple. Available. Known.
And yet, not always used.
In India, data like NFHS-5 (2019-21) show that condom use remains low compared to permanent methods like female sterilisation. Protection often becomes the woman’s responsibility, while in many situations, men decide whether a condom will be used at all.
But, in real life, things are messier, more complicated, less controlled than we think.
“Log jabarjasti karte hain. Maante hi nahi. Kitna bhi bolo…condom use nahi karte,” a s*x worker says.
Sometimes, it is about power.
Sometimes, about preference.
“Some people want s*x without condom. They want it rough.”
Sometimes, it is simply the moment.
“People are impulsive,” someone says.
“In that moment, they don’t think.”
In other situations, alcohol and drugs make that moment even smaller.
“Log nasha mein hote hain…unhe bas s*x chahiye.”
For some, it is also about how and where they’re able to express intimacy.
“In our community, things don’t always happen in open or stable spaces,” someone from the q***r community says.
“You meet suddenly, sometimes late at night. There isn’t always planning.”
“In that moment, you just want a connection.
You don’t always think about condoms. Or you don’t have one.”
For many, it is also about distance and loneliness.
“We are always on the move,” a truck driver says.
“Thake hue rehte hain. Family se door.
Kabhi 50-100 rupaye mein mil jata hai…truck ke peeche.
Us time kaun condom ke baare mein sochega?”
Even when condoms are used, they are not always used correctly.
“Kabhi kabhi phat jaata hai..log tel laga lete hain,” someone says.
“Some people use two condoms together,” a loom worker explains.
“Par usse tootne ka chance aur badh jaata hai.”
There is awareness.
But there is also hesitation, pressure, urgency, and unequal power.
And in many situations -
especially for women and s*x workers -
using a condom is not just a choice.
It is a negotiation…
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