14/07/2026
- I watched film the other evening... and it taught me something I wasn't expecting.
To be honest, when it first started, I wasn't convinced it was my kind of film.
But then came a scene that stopped me in my tracks.
It was the moment between Joy, Sadness and Bing B**g.
Like many of us, my instinct has often been to move people away from sadness.
To cheer them up.
Find the positive.
Fix the problem.
After all, that's what kindness looks like... isn't it?
But what struck me was that although Joy's intentions were good, Bing B**g didn't need someone to solve his feelings.
He needed someone to sit with them.
Sadness didn't rush him.
She didn't tell him everything would be okay.
She simply listened.
She acknowledged how much he was hurting.
And only then was he able to move forward.
It made me reflect on something much bigger.
When we're working with children particularly those who have experienced trauma, loss, care, adoption or significant change, we can be so quick to reassure them that we sometimes miss what they really need.
I know, because it happened to me.
It's not always solutions we need.
It's not always distractions which will solve.
Simple, it is permission.
Permission to feel confused.
Permission to feel angry.
Permission to feel sad.
Because those feelings aren't problems to eliminate.
They're experiences to understand.
I've learnt that one of the greatest gifts we can give a young person is creating a space where they don't have to hide what they're feeling.
When they know it's safe to be honest, they begin to make sense of emotions that may have felt overwhelming before.
Sometimes our role isn't to bridge the gap by having all the answers.
Sometimes it's simply to stand beside them while they find their own.
To me, that's where bravery begins.
Not in pretending everything is okay.
But in knowing it's okay not to be okay and trusting that someone will stay with you through it.
That's one of the values I'm building into Ubuntu Creative Productions.
Creating stories, conversations and spaces where young people don't just feel heard, they feel understood.
Because when a child feels understood, they're far more likely to believe that their future is bigger than their past.
And I think that's a story worth telling.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=GgQBPSECgZg
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