26/01/2026
Dave & Anne
Married for 51 years.
“We met at a party more than fifty years ago, back when there were no phones, so if you agreed to meet someone you really had to mean it. There was no texting, no checking where someone was. You said a place and a time, and if they weren’t there, that was it.
We got engaged quite quickly. I was only 21 at the time, but we didn’t overthink it or analyse everything. We just decided, and we got married the following year.
I made my own wedding dress, and the bridesmaids’ dresses too. That was normal then. You bought some fabric, found a pattern, and got on with it. Our parents organised the wedding, so all we really had to do was turn up and say yes.
We didn’t have much money when we started out. At one point we couldn’t even afford to have a telephone. When interest rates went up, Dave worked three jobs to keep things going. Everyone we knew was in the same situation, so it didn’t feel like hardship exactly. It was just how life was.
We’re very different people. Chalk and cheese, really. One of us tends to worry more, the other lets things go, and over time we learned that there’s no point arguing about the small things. If something isn’t going to matter in the long run, it’s not worth turning it into a fight.
When it came to raising our children, we tried to give them space. If they wanted advice, we were there. If they didn’t, we stepped back. We never wanted small disagreements to turn into lasting damage, especially within the family.
Looking back now, there hasn’t been a big secret to it all. No grand formula. Just working together, being considerate of each other, and allowing each other to be who we are.
If we had to give advice to a younger couple, it would be this. Work hard. Be kind to each other. Let the small things go. Tomorrow always comes.”