14/10/2020
What to Say to Someone Who Lost a Stillborn Baby
What do you say to someone who lost a baby at birth? This is one of the most traumatic things a person can experience. Your friend or family member may have a decorated nursery waiting but will have to go home empty-handed and with a broken heart.
💔 “Can I bring you a meal?”
Your friend is grieving the death of a family member. He or she will probably not be able to concentrate on life’s more mundane activities for quite a while. Take care of some of those tasks by providing a meal. Or, if you aren't nearby, you can always send them a pretty package full of snacks
💔 “I know how much you loved this baby. I’m so sorry for your loss.”
You may be the type of person who wants to do something for a person who is grieving, but it’s also important to offer comforting words as well. In addition to providing a meal, this quote allows you to acknowledge a loved one’s grief.
💔 “Remember to be kind to yourself. Give yourself time to heal and grieve.”
When a woman gives birth to a stillborn child, she still has to recover physically from labor and delivery. Remind your friend to take things slow for her physical and mental health.
💔“Our entire family grieves with you.”
Tell your friend that you’re also grieving for the loss of the child. Sometimes parents feel isolated in their heartbreak, especially if the child who was lost never had a chance to experience life outside of the womb.
Remind your friend that you share in her grief — it may make her feel less alone.
💔”You and _______ are in my heart.”
If the baby had a name, make sure to use it when talking about the infant. Saying the name may help the parent know that you understand he or she grieves the loss of a real person.
💔“I love you, and I’m so sorry you are going through this pain.”
Don’t try to use flowery words. Don’t feel as if you need to give long speeches. Instead, simply speak from the heart