06/08/2026
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My friend is a portrait photographer. Last week she asked me to sit for her again, this time while she tried a technique she'd been reading about, light painting.
I said yes straight away. I always do.
There's something about watching her work that settles me and fascinates me at the same time. She tries the thing. Sometimes it lands. Sometimes she looks at the screen and goes, "well, that didn't work, why didn't that work?". Then she works it out, adjusts, tries again. Slowly the technique stops being someone else's and starts being hers.
Halfway through the shoot I realised this is exactly what I do, just with a different instrument. I sit with women while they try on a new way of leading, or a new way of speaking to their team, or a new understanding of themselves. Some of it lands straight away. Some of it doesn't, and we go looking for why.
Watching someone hone their craft, whatever the craft is, is one of the most quietly moving things I get to witness. In her studio or in a coaching room, it looks the same. And I love it.
[Photo credit Amanda Waschevski Waschevski Portraits]