18/06/2021
My name is Tamara and I am/was a straight spouse. In MY case that means I had a long term relationship (14 year marriage) with a partner who then came out as having same s*x attraction. There are other types of straight spouses, but that’s where I fit. It is my belief that same s*x attraction is not something that you choose or can be chosen for you. You can only choose to pursue that attraction or not.
For whatever reason, my spouse didn’t feel comfortable until his late 30’s and after 2 children, to pursue this attraction. Because I acknowledge that I am a part time awesome individual, my first words after his disclosure were something along the lines of ‘I love you, you're still my best friend, it's just who you are’. And we went shopping. It wasn’t like that for the whole time though, there was a lot to unpack and process. I learned that there were a LOT of people like me. I believe if people can TRULY acknowledge who they are as teenagers, they are much less likely to carry shame into adulthood and hide, leaving people like straight spouses to clean up after they start living their authentic life. I want to become an ally to teenagers of the LGBTQIA+ community and celebrate who THEY are. Plus I am a of a teenager who identifies as LGBTQIA+.
Even though Pride Month is nearly over, I want to honour the rainbow community and be a safe place to represent. So, in honour of Pride Month, I will be hosting a special event for the people who identify as part of the LBTQIA+ community and their supporters. Once I can predict what COVID restrictions will be in July. I will announce registrations here on my page.
There will be two shoot types. The first will be a shootout in a group setting for those who are comfortable. I will also be hosting 1:1 sessions (with their supporters) for those who aren’t comfortable in a group setting. I want to celebrate YOUR true colours and how you represent you. My focus will be on 12-16 year olds in the hope that in feeling celebrated and supported, there will be less mental health issues, su***de, and more open and honest conversations between teenagers and their eventual partners. Hoping that in time, there will be less and MORE