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Her Judiciousness, Johannesburg (2026)

20/07/2025

I've cried, quit, looked back, begged, become desperate, thought of ending my life by letting myself go, compared myself to others, and believed the lies the enemy and his agents whispered to me. But after a worship session, it dawned on me that God had chosen and saved me when I was supposed to be terminated after my mom had a miscarriage of my twin. It hit me hard that God had chosen me. It could've been my twin who made it, but God chose me. God used just one last doctor to give a reason why they should keep me; my heartbeat was the only reason and evidence that I could stay in my mother's womb. It could've been otherwise, but what remained was that God kept me. He saved me for such a time as this. I've finally understood why Jeremiah 29:11 stood out to me so much: 'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.' And, 'Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations' (Jeremiah 1:5). After such a deep revelation, everything started to make sense. I am not ordinary. I can recall how many times my mom told me about her experiences with her pregnancy with me, but it didn't sink in the way it did now. I'm so grateful for who God is. My existence is a blessing. I now allow God to ordain His purpose for my life and the reason why He kept me alive.
This is my story
This is my NEW song

-Susankemptmatsiliso

15/10/2022

What people know about you is what you decide to tell them. But what you show is what they will believe. What you promise will determine your trustworthiness.
It's all up to you.

I don't care about the empty promises, but what I care about is if he/she will act out those promises. See, there's a time and point where those sweet words will turn into annoyance when nothing is proven yet. Can you be trusted with your own words? Are you reliable enough to reach the next level of a relationship? What exactly are they consistent with? I cannot stress this enough. Yes, they've been busy were all busy. But can they MAKE TIME for you? And please don't get me wrong, it's not about wanting attention, being too clingy or fussy. Just be careful that you're not with a time waster and a destiny delayer. It's scary that some love you, just to keep you backwards. Some things don't need prayer, they just need discernment.

So, if you're hearing more excuses and notice less effort, it's a huge red flag and a prayer point.
What you didn't know back then, you'll get to learn and know better now.

To be continued...
Much love y'all🧡🤗
Her Judiciousness

28/06/2022

Jeremiah 6:16

Stand in the ways and see
And ask for the old paths, where the good way is. And walk in it.
Then you will find rest for your souls.

Continue in the ways and see the direction that would lead you to a good destination. Where you will be pleased and arrive where you were meant to be. Every good road leads to a good and correct destination.

It is always important to have an accurate map and people alongside, who may help lead you to the right artery. When you ask people who do not have an idea of where you're going (understanding your vision), you might find yourself doubting your journey and it may tempt you to give up. Which is very easy to do.

I don't mind the number of friends, but I have an issue with allowing friends who behave like stumbling blocks in my path. Those who feel like they're entitled to know our every move, for the sake of "BFF". The ones we are allowed to talk us out of our dreams because they no longer have motivation for their own lives.

How do we expect positivity from negative circles?
How do we expect to arrive, when we haven't mentally and physically prepared for the journey? How would you expect to get that job when you have not believed in yourself from the interview already? How do you expect to start a business when you haven't made a business plan?

I believe that planning sets the tone for your goals to be achieved. Surrounding ourselves with good (not perfect) people will pay off later. Yes, we may plan but God decides. But at least a strategic plan has been conserved.

Good ideas, guidance, people, and destinations will surely make your soul find rest.

Her Judiciousness 🌺

26/06/2022

I don't underestimate Martha for being busy with many things. She did the right thing but at the wrong time. I believe she intended to serve Jesus who was at her household, with great hospitality. Her goal to action was not the issue but her timing was just out of place.

Sometimes we find ourselves worrying about serving the Lord with many responsibilities that were given by our leaders but hardly have time to seek and to "Be still and know and that He is God, who is there to guide us, at His feet. Some of us found ourselves with the desire to serve people in church, then finally start but at the wrong season. We might have been ordained in the flesh but we were never in the Spirit.

There's a season to be like Martha Yes! There's a time to be busy serving because while you're going up and about with many things, (productive things I hope) you can still learn and become wiser, but when it's your time.

It is only at the right time that you can become Mary who sat at Jesus' feet and gave Him her undivided attention. In life when God requires your attention, you show up and be still and know that He is God who needs your attention so that you may serve Him correctly.

The same applies In relationships. If people have been asking you when you're getting married, just say when the time is right. Just because you're dating does not mean you should get married in the next month. Some things will require you to be like Mary. Getting to know more of each other, praying, fasting, and seeking sound advice before taking the big step into marriage. When the time is right, that's when you start making necessary plans for the future.
Imagine planning a future and preparing for a wedding with the wrong bride/groom.

How do we expect God to prepare a table for us in the presence of our enemies if we don't seek to hear from God in the first place? Enemies remain defeated when they see that you give attention to the right things (GOD).
Wisdom defeats foolishness, knowledge overcomes ignorance. When you know who you are serving, you will trust and move according to The right timing he has for you. You will not need to operate in darkness when his word is your light and direction.
Let's be busy and productive in our service to God. And in our seeking, let us always be still and trust his timing.
Seasons and times 🌺

judiciousness🌺
So much more to share on my upcoming podcast. Stay tuned for more 🙏

16/06/2022

God has a way of taking us out of the grave the enemy once buried us in.
A vast mystery of what God can do.
Indescribable & unexplainable
Her Judiciousness 🌺

13/06/2022

Dr. Farrah Gray said, "sending your kids out at 18 without a plan is a curse". This is true.
Legally they're adults but it doesn't guarantee that they'll "grow up".

With this, I say parents should teach their children the importance of planning and having a vision for themselves from a young age. This would also be an early investment for their future. Because they will have an idea of exactly what they want and make further work on how they want to achieve their goals and accomplishments.

Moreover, I say seeing young adults getting married without a plan or vision generates a generational curse.
You see, many may get into marriage with the idea of creating a life that they once imagined but have no plan at all .which may lead to uncertainty about their future. My question is, how do you expect to reach an unfamiliar destination without a map or GPS? Or how would you expect a pilot to take flight without any knowledge of flying?

There are curses that we can break by just having a plan. Deciding to do things differently and not looking back, can break many unknown curses. Some of us are from families who did things without thinking and ended up in scary situations that caused unnecessary suffering and set back.
Some did things for the sake of becoming " independent" but messed up their future. All because they just didn't plan. Now they're teaching the same foolishness to the new generation.

The word is very clear when it says
Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed” (Proverbs 16:1-3). In other words,s we be strategic when planning for the future, but then commit those plans to the Lord that He would carry them out according to His will. Write it down make it plain, leave it to God and rest assured that God will work it out according to His will which is always best for those who trust in Him with their plans.

Yes, we may strategize but God decides what's best for us but at least have a plan.

So much more to talk about on my new upcoming podcast.
Stay tuned🙏😊
Her Judiciousness 🌹🌺
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11/06/2022

What have you learnt now that you haven't learnt back then?

This is one of the common questions I get whenever I talk about my experiences with relationships and marriage. Which I'm very unapologetic about. There's always a lesson to learn from every bad situation and a good example to reference from a good one. After all, there's nothing MUCH to lose but to learn from the places we once put ourselves in.

However, I've come to understand that being married should be a BLESSING, not a purpose. Staying married nowadays is a miracle and counting anniversaries should be a good example for those who once tried and failed and for those who are patiently waiting for their right companion.
As a society, we need to understand that what we have is a blessing. You may have worked hard for what you own but always remember that it is by grace that God Himself gave you wisdom and knowledge to bypass the test of time.

To the married, don’t be quick to mock and shame the single or divorced. The best you can do is encourage them that there's still hope to find true love again through the example of the testimony of your marriage.
Because you are married does not automatically make you happier or more blessed than them. Every marriage has its season of tests and trials that 2 people fight to make it work and overcome.
Many are living more wholesome enriching and meaningful lives than those in toxic marriages. So be careful not to laugh too soon at others.

Marriage is beautiful, for those who are in it for all the right reasons of course.
But it backfires when there are no pure intentions behind it.

To my fellow Christians, have we rooted for marriage to glorify God?, or have we used His name in vain to just be in the community of the married? Besides the domestic privileges and perks of marriage, how exactly is it Honouring the kingdom of God? What role has the "two shall become one" played in the spiritual institution of marriage? How does your God-given purpose contributes to your union?

I'm open for discussion 😊💬

So much more to touch on about this topic on my new upcoming podcast.

Her Judiciousness 🌺

09/06/2022

I recently asked a question of what women think they "bring to the table".
My curiosity about this question confirmed that I was not the only one who seemingly found this trending question defeating and disrespectful. I must warn you that this post might offend a few. Nonetheless, it is a conversation that I think is important to have.

My reason for raising a question on this trending topic was because I noticed a lot of grown insecure, immature guys asking this. I think it's a shame that women have to constantly prove themselves to men who were supposed to appreciate all their woman does for them in the relationship. But we need to understand the disrespect it comes with. If he's a so-called high-value man then his actions will show it. You don't need a list of accolades with what you expect. High expectations often lead to great disappointments. It's not a job interview or contract.

It’s great if you are beautiful, intelligent, and successful. The significant and relevant question is, Are you ready to pick up the mantle of supporting and helping your husband? Are you ready to respect him? Do you catch an attitude easily? That’s not a great thing to bring into marriage.

Can he find peace when he's with you?
Are you ready to nurture? To start and raise a family together? Are you prepared to sacrifice your time to invest in HIS well-being?
He may be your leader but can you be his "CHEER leader". His mental, emotional and spiritual support?
Are you willing to put your all into helping sustain you and him?
Are you willing to respect him, which is one of the important aspects? These are well-listed questions that may be useful when dating. This is when you'll have an idea of what you're both able to handle and appreciate.

It saddens me that this question causes both genders to unnecessary conflict that may lead to unnecessary competition. The endless cycle of disconnect that doesn't bring a solution but more hate. I don't know what pride they take in arguing with women and attempting to devalue women's values. Men and women cannot be competing with each other but are to love one another. Love your neighbour as you love yourself. It's about serving the love that will allow you to flourish into a good place and your purpose. Please don't be fooled by the men who confuse arrogance, disrespect and insecurity with confidence. Know the difference. Love, peace, support, understanding, character, respect, good mindset, loyalty and lots more are what build a foundation for a strong relationship.
I can go on and will continue this episode very soon on my upcoming podcast

Stay tuned for more interesting topics Her Judiciousness 🌺
Much love💜

03/06/2022

Money cannot buy happiness nor can it change you, it enhances who you really are.

30/05/2022

What do (you think) you bring to the table in a relationship?
Talk to me 💬

26/05/2022

Influence 🌺

I find it interesting that we tend to wait for people to change until we eventually see their potential or most common "the good" in them. Well fair enough, but that's not being fair to yourself. Just observe what and who they look up to, and then most of your questions will be answered.

People tend to be the way they are because of what feeds their behaviour or beliefs. It can be anything. "Good Samaritans" may have been taught from church or the teaching of the Bible. "Bad people" tend to have an unruly behaviour because of their bad friends or relationships "The wrong person" tends to certain have beliefs that you may be against and hangs out with similar. Let's say, you're dating someone you've discovered that they have childhood traumas of abuse etc. That could be one of the many reasons why they treat you that way. You can stay in that relationship by choice but chances are they will not change. Until they decide to, by shifting themselves to the right and healthy influence
Good comes from good influence
And bad comes from bad influence.

It's not every good teaching that will make one good, but they may be a few attributes that may contribute to their lifestyle.

Who and what is the source of your change?
Does it benefit your relationships?
Does it guide or drift others away from you?
We can't change people
But we have the power to influence them to change.

With love from above🙏
judiciousness🌺🌹

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20/05/2022

Love cannot be trusted, when it is not understood.

These days people do things with high expectations and then show their true colours when they're not met. Which isn't fair.
If you're attracted to someone and helping them with a genuine heart of helping, tell them. If not, still tell them how you feel and what you wish. At least the person will be aware and will decide to either accept your proposal or not. Simple.

Buying someone's love will often lead to your disappointment. Rather tell the person how you feel about them than to buy your way through their heart.
If you're expecting the person you once helped to love you in return, you might be disappointed.

These are one of the major issues that most women face and are often misunderstood when they reject the man's approach to love. This is why you find people you trusted like family, friends or even religious leaders who take advantage of vulnerable of their congregants. We no longer have to do regretful things just to maintain relationships with them.

Be honest with yourself and with the person you asked for help from. Be clear that you need their help but you have no other intentions whatsoever. This is how you can avoid predators using words against you.

Your honesty will kill false hopes.
Be Genuine

Much love, God bless🙏
Her Judiciousness 🌺🌹

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