03/07/2025
I think it’s safe to say that it’s harder and harder to know where people’s hearts and motivation’s lie these days. Unfortunately, now when I see an American flag outside of a house I immediately get that sinking feeling of, oh no you must have voted for Trump and all feelings of safety go out the window.
Everyone has a different lens of what safety is and so I want to be perfectly clear about who I am and who I am not so whoever is reading this can make their own decisions about where to put their trust.
I am the daughter of a Deaf, Chinese mother who immigrated to the US at age 35. She worked multiple jobs as a janitor and restaurant kitchen staff with a third grade comprehension of English. To me this doesn’t elicit pity or shame, it’s fu***ng badass.
I am someone who grew up in one of the most densely populated Black counties in America (Prince George’s, babyy) and am a product of the public school system. I was one of 10 non Black students in my graduating class. I grew up seeing Black excellence everywhere as well as folks who are average and struggling because guess what, no group of people is a monolith! I do see color. Racism is real and it’s disgusting.
I am a birth worker who does not give a flying f**k how you give birth or what your gender is. Scheduled c section? Great! You’re in my cal and I’ll meet you in recovery with some soup. Home birth in your back yard? Rad, I’ll bring bug spray. What I do care about is: your pronouns and were you given choices? Did you feel like your medical provider talked TO you and not AT you? Was there informed consent?
And I’m PRO abortion (and absolutely NO one is aborting full term babies, g**o here).
I’m the mother of two children who are 8 years apart. One born in Texas and the other born here in VT because Texas (yes, even Austin) became a place we could no longer feel aligned with politically. Our family, blood and chosen, includes trans, q***r and differently able folks from all over the world. And if you come for them, I’ll come for you (IYKYK).