Family and the Matters

23/04/2024

26/01/2022

*AVOID BROKEN HOME AT ALL COST.* Consequences of pride in a marriage could be irreversible.

If someone tells you that he/she has a perfect marriage, just know right away that he/she is a great liar.

Couples fight and fight badly for that matter, but it's the ability to revise ones stand, communicate with respect, and be honest with each other, that determines the survival of any marital relationship.

If you remove pride and arrogance in your marital relationship, the marriage is already 90% promising, stable, peaceful and can thus, stand the test of time.

Invest in your marriage through giving, talking and compromising here and there.

Your business as a stakeholder should be what to do to make your home peaceful and stable for you, your spouse, and your children's enjoyment.

STOP running to 3rd parties who equally have their own challenges they are probably hiding and managing. You may end up getting nothing positive or helpful from such friends, family members, church members, and colleagues to whom you are exposing or trading what should be the secrets of your home.

Broken home is like a war. No party goes uninjured. Each party goes with an injury they nurse for the rest of their lives. That is the reality. Whichever party claims unaffected/uninjured is a chronic liar, chronic pretender, and an unrepentant soul, l mean he/she is stone hearted. Such a person has no idea of what a good home should be. He/she is ignorant of the positive impact of unbroken relationship on the home itself, the community, the church/mosque congregation, and the society at large.

No amount of success in life could compensate for failure at home. Ensure that your home is not scattered. Repair it now before it is too late.

If your home is experiencing separation now, ensure that you shed your pride and compromise to arrest it from drifting to a broken home.

STOP narrating your home affairs around to seek sympathy. Most people you have taken your story to, and are suppor

04/09/2020

Stop making jest of your homes by comparing yours with that of others. It does not bring out anything good than hatred, heavy and all short of evil. Think about your home, treasure it in your heart and work things out anyand happy you shall be.

19/05/2020

PART 2
“ISOKENE”
(STOP MY WIFE FROM SMILING)
©️Opeyemi Ojerinde Akintunde
Isoken (or better still Isokene pronounced as ee-so-kene as she is being called by her
husband, though according to him, he was the only one who had the license to call her
that) and I never saw after that day again, although Ibidolo (her husband) got me laughing that day...I jokingly told Isoken to reduce her smile if that was going to make her husband happy... Ibidolo was excited I had granted his wish...but ever since that day my mind had no peace...
I kept asking myself was it right for a man or woman to give up what made him or her
smile, because the other spouse was not comfortable with it?
I looked inward and asked myself, what if my Husband asked me to stop my counselling
and homebuilding ministry, because he was not comfortable with it, would I give it up, just the way I told Isoken to reduce or give up her smiles?
I picked up my phone and made some calls to some of my cousins who knew Isoken
better, to have her contact...
**********
"Her name is not Isoken, it was her husband that gave her that name when they got
married, you know he is an Edo man, Her name is Mobolaji...” Aunty Lara said
“I was wondering how the Edo blood entered our lineage" I said jokingly to my favorite
aunt...
“From the look of things, Betty, that girl is not happy, because before marriage she used
to smile a lot but at this years’ Reunion ,she was a bit reserved and since that is your
specialty, help her"
"I will try... by the Grace of God" I assured my aunt...
***********
"Mobolaji, good morning" I said when she picked up the call
“Oh my God! I can’t believe this, I can't believe you actually called my phone”
"Do you know who is speaking" I said trying to be mischievous...
"Of course ma, I have your number, I just never had the boldness to call you" She said
with so much excitement, I could feel her smile, it was so tangible,

INSPIRED BY THE HOLY ONE
“My goodness, this girl was made to put smiles on people's

19/05/2020

INSPIRED BY THE HOLY ONE
1
“ISOKENE”
(I DON'T WANT MY WIFE SMILING)
©️Opeyemi Ojerinde Akintunde
I was at my family house for the Christmas festivities, which was the only time I literally
saw my parents and relatives, it was always a beautiful Reunion.
As a marriage counsellor God was helping, my travelling itinerary for the year was always filled, ministering from one Women's program to the other, From one marriage seminar to the other, and my message was simple..."No matter how terrible your marriage could be, it was WORKABLE...." but my encounter with Isoken and her husband got me thinking if this was true!
A beautiful lady walked up to me at the Family Reunion, she looked a bit familiar but I
couldn't place the face. She greeted me like a well cultured lady, and I replied her, asking about her sister as she looked like one of my old friends. I obviously was mixing her up with someone else. She called my attention to that, and told me her real identity, she was one of those “extended extended” younger cousins of mine...I noticed she had a sparkling wedding ring on. I made a compliment about that, but her smile was not impressive enough, but I couldn't help but admire her dimples.
"I wish I had one of those dimples" I said, trying to make her smile...and that she did...Her smile was beautiful, her smile could make anyone who was sad become happy, her smile was like light, I had never seen a smile as pure, interesting and beautiful as her smile, I wish my smile could have that kind of Effect....
"This smile could be a ministry you know” I thought to myself, her smile could give hope
to a dying person...Her voice brought me back to reality...
“Thank you ma, you just made me smile for real for the first time in two months"... She
said...
“What’s your name again?" I asked wanting to connect with her...
"Isoken".... Almost immediately, I heard another voice..., but this time a male voice from
behind me...
" Isokene, my beautiful wife I call her Isokene to personaliz