25/10/2026
My Public Speaking Journey: I Love Julian Clary!
I’ve always loved Julian Clary. His wonderfully dry humour, outrageous double entendres and ability to say something utterly ridiculous with a perfectly straight face. I’ve admired his comedy for years, and I’ve always fancied having a go at it myself.
Which is rather ironic, considering there was a time when simply being in a room full of people could fill me with fear.
Many years ago, I struggled with social phobia. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) helped me understand that avoiding frightening situations only reinforced my fears. If I wanted things to change, I needed to face them, however uncomfortable that might feel.
Years later, when I decided to tackle my fear of public speaking, I’d heard about people using hypnosis to overcome their anxieties. It may help others, but it was never an option I considered. I already knew what had worked for me before.
Joining Chester BNI became an important part of that journey. Meeting every week gave me something invaluable: regular exposure to speaking in front of others. There was no hiding from it, and gradually, through repetition, I began to feel more comfortable.
Chester Speaking Club gave me another opportunity to challenge myself. Initially, I was terribly self-conscious. Was I blinking too much? Would I stumble over my words? What if my mind went blank? I was so preoccupied with how I appeared that I barely noticed my audience.
But something rather wonderful has happened. I’ve started looking at people, enjoying their reactions and discovering the pleasure of making them laugh. Instead of worrying constantly about being judged, I’m beginning to enjoy connecting with an audience.
Recently, during an impromptu speaking session, I invented a rather outrageous product called Ray’s P***y Garlic. It was ridiculous, full of double entendres and delivered with as straight a face as I could manage.
For someone who once dreaded being the centre of attention, that felt extraordinary.
I’ve gone from wanting to overcome my fear of public speaking to genuinely beginning to love it.
And my ambition to become a comedian one day? Perhaps it’s not quite so ridiculous after all. Although I suspect Julian Clary can sleep peacefully for the time being!
I’m still learning, and I certainly haven’t conquered every fear. But I’ve discovered something I never expected: the very thing I once dreaded is becoming something that brings me enormous happiness.
We spend so much of our lives worrying about what might go wrong that we sometimes forget to imagine what might go right.
Perhaps the greatest reward for facing our fears isn’t simply overcoming them, but discovering who we might become when we do.
Ray