18/07/2026
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A few lessons I've learnt along the way.
1 - Your upbringing programs you. Looking into that and learning about yourself helps you understand yourself, decide what to keep and what to ditch, and how to move forward in your own healthy direction.
2 - You can choose happiness. S**t happens to all of us, what we do with it is much more important.
3 - You have a choice how you react to things. If you blame a 'trigger' for your response, you shift blame and do not take responsibility for yourself.
4 - The death of a loved one shifts life's perspective significantly - don't let life's distractions make you forget this.
5 - The skill of listening to small details and hearing information between the lines is a superpower. So is listening to your intuition. It takes many years of practice to get good at both.
6 - As a woman, I get to role-model feminism to both my daughter as well as my son - this might be one of my most important roles ever.
7- One of the best decisions I have ever made was not to buy into dieting culture when I was in my early twenties. Trusting in my body rather than punishing it has served my physical and mental health well over the decades.
8 - Walking with true confidence is much more beautiful & attractive than being thin, wrinkle free or adhering to beauty standards.
9 - This year, I will have been with the same partner for 20 years. I agree with those social media posts that we don't date the 'same' person, because we change over the years. What has changed Jason and I the most is having kids. It's been by far the most challenging aspect of life for me.
10 - I went to study abroad for a year on a whim. I ended up staying and living in a different country for 25 years and counting. At some point, looking back will bring clarity and suddenly make sense. Trust the journey and enjoy the ride, it will all make sense eventually!
Bx
