Blickfaenge Bianca Schmidt

18/01/2023

Und jetzt gibt's mal wieder bisschen Hochzeits-Content hier. Wie sich das für eine Hochzeitsfotografin gehört. 😚

15/01/2023

By doing hard things. When we don't receive what we want from the outside world, we may feel anger and blame, but those things are a deflection and distrection from our own journey with ourselves. We might focus on how we are a victim which will keep us committed to the story of how we were victimized and allow it to become our identity. I want to be clear that admitting you are a victim is a part of the process of healing. We must allow compassion around that idea. That is part of caring for ourselves. However, we do not want to create an identity around being a victim. We want to create a life for ourselves rooted in the truth of who we actually are and we need to become clear in who that magical being truly is. We have to take responsibility in our own circumstances. Even as victims. Even when we felt we had no control. And there is power in owning that responsibility. The responsibility to only be in control of our own journey and our own choices and no one else's. To know thyself is to love thyself. So getting clear in what and who we actually are is allowing ourselves to let go of what we are not. Self love requires compassion, responsibility, effort and integrity. The effort is usually things like boundaries, ritual and discipline. 

Some people, that know me, may think that I'm having a hard time right now. And partly they are right. But I am living inside this body with my best friend in the universe. I have three incredible children that make me laugh every day and shower me with love. I habe some really good, supportive and understanding friends. I have so much love to give because the love is rooted in myself now. We are all in this insane life together. What a blessing we get another day to breathe and experience it. 

May we lead with compassion and forgiveness for ourselves and others through this new year.

15/01/2023

However, there is only one big stipulation. We have to be willing to relentlessly face and survive it. And that means we have to feel it all. If we run away  from the pain or distract ourselves from it by soothing it with energy that exists outside of us, we will have to keep coming back to it in our dark nights. It will manifest again and again until we are forced to face it or until it kills us. And if we allow it to kill us, then we habe decided not to face it because it felt too painful. But the truth is, no matter how painful it feels, it cannot kill us. And what is waiting in the other side of that pain make it worth enduring. The pain deep in us is rooted in the fundamental infrastructure that we built our entire reality on. A core wound or belief is often rooted in an early childhood development trauma-response. Sometimes it's familial or ancestral and it can be programmed into us by the people who have raised us, or the culture surrounding us. It's underneath our coping mechanisms and it's the core wound and program that ends up running our entire system and our lives. It's a core wound that we are subconsiously controlled by and manifests how we relate to the surrounding  world. My core wound and response to my own trauma as a young child was to feel worthless. I won't go to the deep trauma here as it's deeply personal (but maybe not so unique). The important thing to note is that my response was worthlessness. I made a   lot of choices in my life from a people pleasing and codependent place because I was seeking to be validated by someone else. I felt that I needed somone else's approval and love to be worthy, and without them, I was nothing. This is actually quite common for a lot of people. But it doesn't work. Because we have no control about what other people do. So the love is wobbly. True and relentless selflove is the foundation of a happy life. So without it we live in a state o reaction and anxiety. Like the floor could fall out at any time and we will fall into space without anyone to catch us. The hard truth is: We have to catch ourselves. We have to surrender to the fear and allow the metamorphosis. It's how we grow strength.

13/01/2023

In the past I have been pretty open and vulnerable on this platform. Obviously I have taken a few breaks while my family has been going through some big changes. I'm going to attempt to share some of my process with you at the risk of exposing some pretty deep feelings. I trust that in our humanity we are alike in our struggles and that is what connects us. We as humanes go all through monumental lief changes at some point. Man of them triggered by big hard losses that require us to face the broken parts of ourselves. We learn that the circumstances that expose our broken parts are just the catalyst to face the deeper thing to the surface. In these dark nights of the soul we are gifted the key to our own metamorphosis. And the harder we fall the bigger the opportunity for transformation. So the good news is that I had a huge hard fall, hence a giant opportunity for change. The darker the night the brighter the day. So... plainly said, the more something seems like it could kill us, the greater chance it will have to transform us.

09/01/2023

06/01/2023

Dieses Jahr habe ich so viele Hochzeitaanfragen in den ersten Januar-Tagen erhalten, wie noch nie.
Und das, obwohl ich in den letzten Wochen und sogar Monaten aus verschiedenen Gründen so gut, wie gar nicht arbeiten konnte. Das heißt, die Website ist alles andere als aktuell und auch hier bei Insta habe ich sehr sparsam Bilder gezeigt. Ich freue mich deshalb umso mehr über jede Email und jeden Anruf und habe mir fest vorgenommen, euch die Bilder der wunderschönen Hochzeiten des letzten und teilweise auch noch vorletzten Jahres nicht länger vorzuenthalten.
Auf eine wundervolle Hochzeitssaison 2023 💖
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06/12/2022

27/11/2022

13/11/2022

02/11/2022

Rising woman

28/10/2022

Same place, different life